I didn’t always embrace God’s truth about my identity. To be honest, I struggled in that area for a long time. Growing up, I disliked many things about myself. I was slightly overweight, I had terrible acne, and I hated my seemingly untameable, kinky hair. I thought my forehead was way too huge and I felt my nose was too wide and oddly shaped.
As if the typical adolescent struggles weren’t enough, I also endured brutal bullying during that season of my life. Long story short, there was a girl in my class who just didn’t like me and would taunt me everyday with words that crippled me on the inside little by little. Though she ridiculed me with many words, one stood out. Ugly. It was her favorite word to call me. I’d hear it every day, multiple times a day. Pretty soon, she no longer had to be present for her words to loudly fill my head. I heard it so much it naturally became a part of me. I really started to believe it.
I started to live from that place. I lived as if her words were gospel truth. If I was ugly, then I’d be unwelcome among my peers. I’d have to walk with my head hung low. Worst of all, I’d have to constantly strive to become something that I already was. I spent so much time trying to be beautiful instead of believing that I already was.
See, that’s what happens when you’re not fully aware of your identity. You end up searching for a taste of something you already have full access to. All the time I spent wishing I could have a fraction of this girl’s beauty, I was missing out on the incredible beauty within me.
It took me years to learn the truth that I don’t have to strive for something that’s already mine. I am beautiful. That’s how God made me. So, it doesn’t really matter what anyone else says, I’m defined by that simple truth. Life situations can throw around all the lies about my identity it wants, but it won’t mean a thing. My identity is in Christ and every word he declares about me.
Knowing who we are brings clarity, purpose, and direction into our lives. Many voices tell us who we should be but only God’s voice tells us who we are. He calls us beautiful and he makes us whole. It’s time we start silencing the wrong voices and embracing the right One.
So, let me officially welcome you to this space. First of all, it’s an open space. I’ll share life lessons I’ve learned over the years and the truth God places on my heart with you. If you read something here that moves you, please leave a comment and let me know your thoughts. I value your opinions and the things you have to say.
Before you go, I have a challenge for you. If you’re on social media, I want you to take a selfie. But before you do, grab a blank piece of paper. Write down a word or phrase that you used to think defined you. Now put a line through it because it no longer defines you. Now, write a word or phrase that you now know is a part of your identity as a daughter of God. Hold your paper up and take your selfie. In the caption, share a quick thought about what these words mean to you and tag @herstyleoftea or #withaweandwonder so I can find you and repost.